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  1. xdc91 trust me, you're never too old to be a houseboy. I know plenty good houseboys in their 40's. Hell, even I keep getting offers in my mid 30's and my first line reads "no longer a houseboy". If you're good at what you do (and depending on what kind of guys you're wanting to notice you), your age won't have anything to do with it. Keep doing what you do and don't ever feel you're too old to be whatever you want to be. Trust me, there are plenty of men that will desire an older houseboy.
  2. ... or just ignore him and be done with him. If he's a scammer, a bunch of people emailing him would just leave him with a bunch of email addresses he could use to send all kinds of spam and junk to or have others send junk to. Sounds like a pretty poorly thought out plan for revenge, don't you think? The fakes are annoying, but there's no good reason to play their games when there's so many real boys you could be focused on.
  3. ^^^^ That logic is what anti-maskers and anti-vaxers use to justify being stupid about covid. Think about it; this is a site where boys can advertise themselves to get hired to have sex with men that they clean house for. Sex for money. That's quite illegal and is called prostitution, or at least it would be if this site positioned itself as an official job listing site. In your profile, you can list your sexual desires along with your pay requirements. What legal jobs do you have to list those things together? Of course this site is fantasy. The admins here wouldn't dare list themselves as an employer or employment agency for what this site offers. Now, I'm not trying to "defend" this site. It has its ups and downs like any other. It's not my favorite site, but I was lucky enough to be a houseboy when there were several other competing sites like this (and they were all great). This site can be frustrating, but I still love the connections I make here even to just make friends. However... It would be absurd to go to a website that lists sexual desires and payment requirements in each profile to find a serious companion. That would be as effective as going to a strip club and telling them to keep the music down so you can use their wifi to attend a video conference call for work, and then blame them for not creating a more work friendly environment. The irony of the use of the word "absurd" is that now you might start to see why the guys here aren't really taking you seriously. Still, I hope you find what you're looking for.
  4. Remember that this site is pure fantasy. There are no real jobs here, just arrangements. Sure, dating is "possible" from this site, but you can't get upset that most guys you meet on this fantasy arrangement site seem to be interested in something far less serious than the companionship you desire. Also, remember that on this site (or any site), no one owes you a response or a level of communication as deep as what you see fit. There is no reason to focus on those that can't communicate with you the way you seek. There is no reason to try to "teach" everyone the right way to treat you. If you're looking for companionship as you say, why focus on what so many guys are doing wrong when you could be searching for and focusing on that one guy that responds the right way? You're looking for one, not trying to appeal to the masses. When I was a houseboy, I only used this site to fulfill those fantasies I had. While some people offer pay, I never took pay from guys from this site because I knew I was meeting them because I was attracted to them. When it came to the real houseboy positions where I was paid on an actual payroll, taxes taken out, all that stuff, that came from other places. I'm not saying there's no serious boys on this site, but you can't fault anyone on this site for not taking things as serious as you do when this is a site that advertises housing a boy in exchange for his help in and out of the bed. If you seek true companionship, it's likely not going to be found on a site that that is sponsored by porn. Even the "Help and Info" page on this site features lines like "Rubbers are for women and children on a rainy day – not for a little piggy's bedroom!" and "Cum inside our bulletin boards and chat rooms and get ready for a nasty ride!". In other words, don't take stuff so seriously on this site. Sure, some guys may just stop responding or not respond... okay, that's a polite way of letting you know they're not interested. Guys on a fantasy website might not be logging in here to find a boyfriend or loving companion. Employers and houseboys don't all have the responsibilities here that you set out just because it's what you want. Every single man I met on this site, they paid my way to meet them 100%. It wasn't a requirement; that's just the only guys on this site I met. Instead of complaining about those that didn't meet that standard of mine, I just focused on those that were truly interested that did. I DID have one responsibility, though. Even though I was the younger top that loved to play the role of the dominant top that was "stuck" with a helpless older man that "couldn't get rid of me" (yeah, that was fun), in all reality, I always, ALWAYS had a way out that I provided for myself, whether it be a plane ticket, train ticket, came in my own car, etc. That and the decision to use condoms was NEVER up to the other person. On this and any other site of fantasy, my only responsibilities were to myself. Otherwise, I simply am or am not someone else's fantasy, and I'll focus on those that I am. I hope you find what you're looking for. Truth be told, there needs to be more good guys out there looking for something "real" with one special guy, but don't expect to find that right away on a fantasy website, and don't be bothered by those that don't share your same desires.
  5. The options to report a fake profile need to be modified. If you're talking to a guy and you suspect he's fake, he might block you before you can report him. Once you're blocked, you can't even report him. Then guys post the "fakes" in here hoping someone else will block him, but they kind of can't since a random person might not have any evidence to support reporting that fake profile. Once you're blocked by a person, you can't even access any of your messages on here to copy and share them to report. I'm not saying messages between blocked members should be accessible even when blocked, but the ability to report a fake profile should remain active. Also, why not put some kind of banner in the messaging part of this website that makes a person have to read through something telling them that they should never have to send money to a boy for any reason, no matter how sad or urgent their sob story is? Perhaps having a box to check off that says something making us agree that we're not going to send any boy money every time we click to send a message? The only thing that will stop the scammers is if they know they're on a site where people aren't careless enough to fall for their stories and fake pictures, so why not mention the rule of not sending money in more places that we'd have to see while or before communicating with others? Maybe even a banner on the home page itself, or a pop up that you have to read and agree to every time we enter the site or go to the messaging link?
  6. Quality over quantity. Believe me... there is nothing to be sorry about. I may not have been through as many men on this site when I was a houseboy, but the men I did meet kept me for years at a time. My time as a houseboy is the reason I get to live a life travelling and being my own boss today. Thank goodness that 25% is far better than what washes up in the other 75%. You don't have to learn to "think as a houseboy". You need to learn to simply be yourself. The right employer or host or lover will love you for it and never let you go. Taking the time to narrow it down to the few good matches will reward you far more than wasting time with the many bad arrangements, but you won't get to any of the good unless you stop trying to be what you see in "hot houseboy of the day" photos and just be yourself (as long as the "yourself" isn't a judgmental twink; those are a dime a dozen).
  7. Preference when searching for a partner or sexual match is not the same as negative or hurtful discrimination. Being fem is not the same thing as being or living as a woman, and maybe DJHJD is simply stating a fact. His statement is great news for anyone looking for a woman or a man that lives as one, but is, without any disrespect, a heads up for those of us that aren't at all into women (cis or not). He didn't say or imply that there was anything wrong with it, but if the ads in that area on that site consist mostly of men pretending to be women, that's just stating facts. Being judgmental isn't any better than discriminating, but when searching for what you actually want, you have every right to discriminate rather than settle. If I thought like you, I'd be offended every time I see a guy that doesn't date black guys (which is usually about 3 out of ever 4 profiles). That's not discrimination or anything to take personal; I'd rather be with someone that adores me rather than be with someone that thinks he's doing me a favor. Lighten up... you're on a houseboy site after all.
  8. This isn't a "hot" response, but... Having been a houseboy, the duties expected will vary widely from one household to the next. There is no "one answer generalizes it all" kind of answer to that question. However, you can know what to expect by not being afraid of setting limits and boundaries. What and which duties you're "expected" to carry out are up to you. It's all about what you are or are not willing to do, even if you're the submissive type. However... Personally, I can tell you that a picture sometimes helps with expected duties. Sounds strange, but it does give a man an idea of what you can do for him. I was always something like the body guard or the driver or a combination of both along with simple household stuff. Then when men found out I loved auto mechanics and fixing stuff, I ended up being the handyman. Yes, I'll admit, more than once I was attracted to the guy I was working for, and every time sex happened, I initiated or made it clear I wouldn't be offended if he did. What can I say... a well aged man is often times irresistible, and when they get a reason to slow down from work to be romanced for a change, well... haha they all responded well to it. I can also say that in my experience, the harder he works and the more in charge he has to be at work, the more willing he is to melt in my arms behind closed doors when he gets home. It's fun making a bottom out of a "top" that doesn't have time for the games the boys in his area play. To greet a tired man at the door, take his clothes off, and before he can say a word, just bend him over whatever furniture is nearby, and not let him out of your grip til he has to leave the next day for work (or make him quite late for work)... mmmm damn, some good memories there. Sorry to all you twinks and young guys, but to find a mature man that can stand alone from you easily but make him helpless to your grip, your passion, your desire for him just means a lot more than railing some young pushover. Then, to get to dress him in the morning... yeah, most men I worked for were often times late to work. There were those that I got to visit on their lunch break. I can say that office furniture can support far more weight and abuse than they're rated for, but make sure the swivel on his chair has a locking option, and always make sure he has a can of WD-40 or mechanical lube in his desk or office. Nothing ruins a good secret faster than squeaky springs in office furniture. You should only have to focus on keeping your boss quiet, not his office furniture. Damn. Those memories make me wish I had still been a houseboy when covid hit. I could just imagine quarantining with some hard working guy that's now stuck at home at Zoom meetings. The things I'd do to him as I made him keep a straight face on camera....
  9. I'm glad "slavery" for you will get to be something so enjoyable and pleasurable. Happy hunting.
  10. Oh good, then I don't have to feel like an outcast about noticing stuff like that.
  11. All of the scammers already give you a symbol. It tends to be a big red flag. They ask for money. That's your sign he's a scammer. No boy is thin enough, cute enough, or young enough to need cash or gifts from you before ever meeting. The only thing a person should have to send to a boy is their flight or train or bus itinerary which can be done via email. The symbol is there, just don't ignore that big red flag.
  12. If a person doesn't respond to your emails, the next step shouldn't be to blast their information on another site. This just means that, for whatever reason, they weren't interested. May not be personal; might just mean they already found a boy and aren't looking anymore, could mean you didn't stand out to them, could be for any other reason. I hope admin does remove this, which brings up a hole in the rules of the forums... yeah, posting full names and emails isn't allowed, but copying and pasting parts or all of a private profile of someone else on any other website (especially another houseboy website) with their names/screen names from those sites should be included in those guidelines of things not allowed on this site. Even so, just because it's not in the rules doesn't mean you shouldn't know better. Geez, I have loved being on here chatting with other houseboys that have questions, but giving someone the "you should know better, son" chat makes me feel old haha. Still, you should know better. I mean, you're a guy that won't even show your own face in your profile because of a certain level of privacy you desire. Why not offer those guys the same respect, and well... no wonder they didn't respond to you.
  13. Those pictures were searchable only if you log in on that site. Their pictures aren't associated with this site for their own reasons. I get that being public online doesn't grant you a ton of privacy, but in general, no good person would just take your pictures from that site and post them elsewhere. Sure, someone might do that, but it doesn't have to be you doing that to them. If they wanted their pictures publicized on this site, they would have done so. If you wonder if they have a profile on here, just ask them on the site you copied this from if they have a profile on this site. Don't blast the profiles text and pictures on or for another site on here. It makes you look like a spam bot for that site. Since you responded, you might not be a spam bot, but that just means you're careless with their privacy, which is a HUGE issue for a lot of the employers here. So, either a spam bot or just careless with someone's information, either makes you a red flag, especially from a member on here that doesn't even have a (face) picture of his own on here.
  14. You've just posted this and 2 other profiles from houseboi.com. Why not just contact them there?
  15. You'd likely have a better time contacting these people by doing so from the profiles from which you copied and pasted this information. Also, it's not such a good idea to just post images and personal information of other men on this site without their permission. They might not have a profile here because they don't want their information on this site for their own personal reasons. Now, image searches for them and even text searches (since you used snippets of their profile word for word) will show search results with their information tied to this website. There are a LOT of employers that seek certain levels of anonymity, and you might just be ruining that for these men.
  16. This site seems to be falling apart like all the other houseboy sites right before they disappeared. Glad I stopped paying for premium membership not too long ago.
  17. Ranchbear, I didn't mean you. Clearly, you're far too bright to fall for that. I just mean in general, they'll never stop because they know all it takes is a cute pic and a lame story to make good money. Even during a pandemic, it seems people still have tons of extra money to throw away. Haha, at this rate, some of those guys would spend less on actual hookers when they add up how much they've lost behind those pictures and stories.
  18. It will end when grown men stop falling for these old "boy in distress" and "too cute to be fake" lines that are somehow still causing men to ignore all the red flags for the thought of getting a shot at some fresh meat. Think about it; this is a fantasy site, but the victim can never go to law enforcement because you're offering money in exchange for (among other things) sex, and somehow, you guys keep falling for it hoping a website block would solve the issue rather than just not going full stupid when a guy sends some hot pix of what's always a twink or young muscled guy. Why would they stop if grown men and daddies are going to keep enabling it?
  19. Better safe than sorry. No boy is cute enough to risk covid over. Think of it this way; you'll be happy and healthy when you can find a boy when this stuff clears, and boys are a dime a dozen, so by then, there will be more boys to pick from. Just find safe things to do to keep yourself busy or learn how to be okay in the silence with yourself. In this country, people seem to have a real issue with that because we're used to everything being loud and flashy to distract us from reality, but it is possible to just be. That way when time comes to find a boy, you won't come out of the cave desperate like most will. As far as testing, any time you spent after that test isn't going to reflect on that test. We see stories like that of the high school football kid that was tested weekly, never got a positive test, and still died of covid. Even if it's not in your system, what if you pick it up and carry it on luggage or something and end up spreading it unknowingly? This country hasn't had any luck coming out of quarantine without infecting others yet, so assuming you will be the exception for a houseboy position or for the sake of getting some is as dumb as blaming this all on China. I mean, no matter where it came from, they're not the people crowding beaches or sending their kids back to school for a president that won't send his own back to school. Anyhow, turn those blues into something fun like I did. Okay, it's easier for me, I'll admit; I've always preferred rural areas, and I don't like being around groups of people (so when covid ends, I'll still want my 6 feet), and I have a bus to convert into an RV... but still, there has to be something you like to do. Cook and record it. Play video games. Plant a garden and care for it. Foster a dog or something. I take random classes and courses when I'm bored. You'll get through it just fine, just be smart about it so you'll have a wonderful opportunity to offer a deserving boy that was smart enough to wait as well.
  20. This site promotes sex between employers and houseboys. Offering escort listings with the intent of sex would make it prostitution. That's illegal in I think 49 states. To offer a way to show escort listings would subject this site and the company to a kind of liability that would shut them down in the same way illegal massage parlors that offer a happy ending are found and shut down. They would have to remove any sections that talk about sex, including the "is sex expected" question. This site uses words like "employer" and "host" and "houseboy" carefully because it's not exactly illegal to fuck your boss. This site offers listings for personal arrangements, not actual employment or job hunting ads. Also, this site is fantasy. There are no real employers here. If there was, your taxes would show that pay to your houseboy and that would have to match what the houseboy files for taxes too... except you can't because if sex is part of what is being paid for, it's called prostitution. If you were to turn this site into an escort listing site or service, this site and company would have to be licensed for it and it one houseboy or host complained about the sex, the company (this site and its owners) would be liable for running a prostitution network. If they're not in the U.S. or even not in the same state as any of the found sex for hire "escort" listings, that only makes the charge worse. So no, you won't see escort listings here. You might want to just look up escort services to find companies that do that, but be warned, the minute you try to have sex with an escort, he could claim sexual assault which, even if consensual, would leave you in jail if it is proven that you paid that person for sex if you're not in Nevada. Also, if enough boys simply list they are escorts in their profiles, that could shut this site down too based on all that fine print in those links at the bottom of this site and every dating or hookup site. So sadly, any discussion of prostitution or escort services would have to just be between you and your boy.
  21. Is it just me, or has anyone else grown tired of the growing gay porn sites and videos featuring fantasy incest and pedophilia? When that Austin guy first did that one scene, that was... odd, but kind of cute if you fast forward to the sex. Now, there are entire websites and fully acted out series of people pretending to be getting fucked by daddy or uncle or grandad with sites like "Family Dick" flooding most gay porn search results. On the flip side, that same actor was also one of the stars of the "boys for sale movement". Yeah, I'm glad slavery for you little white boys is something you all get to enjoy so much because the history of slavery in this country hasn't always been so pleasant. Microsoft was first to notice this disturbing trend and began limiting what would show up in searches, so to get around it, these same actors and studios began labeling it stuff like "step" dad and "not his dad" and so on. Google soon followed, and with recent refusal to work from many ethnic actors due to this and other issues, I've noticed that even PornHub isn't listing any of that at the top of their search results any more. Why has this become such a thing? It's annoying enough that blacks in porn had to always pretend to be mean thugs, but the incest and pedophilia, and the idea of being turned on by the idea of selling, buying, and owning a person... why is this such a growing trend? Maybe it's just me.
  22. The best travel supplies right now would be sense enough not to travel. The idea of using public transportation to go to another state, to risk infection for the sake of calling someone daddy for a "job" that has to be paid under the table since paying for sex isn't legal in most places... right now, that just seems a bit selfish and idiotic. If a guy is close enough to drive to, that would make more sense though I could see that resulting in even more men falling for fake sad stories and sending boys gas money. In any case, some basic common sense would be the best resource to have when deciding to (or to not) travel right now. If desperate for money, there are all kinds of resources available right now that can help keep food in your belly and all kinds of rent protection to keep you housed. Take this time to chat and video chat and phone to get to know a guy you might want to soon meet. Judging by the number of "top" men that have messaged me this past week alone, I can guarantee you boys that there's no dick on here worth risking covid over.
  23. Also, no email client actually protects you from what they're mining for. All he has to do is get you to click on one link that will place a keytracker on your phone or computer (you won't see it install or notice it), or get you to go to one website (usually where their private pictures are, usually not on the site they started on, so not on here) that does the same thing. Then, they track email addresses whether it be your own or others. Then any address associated with a social media account, they can look it up. Even if you don't use it, think of anyone that uses Facebook for example. We see people answer those dumb surveys and think nothing of it. If you really look at them and look back in anyone's profile, those surveys actually reveal things like: Street you grew up on Favorite Color Age and Birthdate (I share a fake birthday on Facebook and all sites for that reason) Mother's Maiden Name Favorite Pet Name and so on... .... and all of those questions are the usual security questions everywhere, even on government websites (this is why I always teach my hosts or employers to never answer security questions with actual answers; for example, for mother's maiden name, my answer might be "green leaves"). << It's not for any scammer out there. Anyhow, it sounds like a lot of work, but this is the reason you could go to a fishy website and within 48 hours, someone has opened an account or filed your taxes or opened a line of credit in your name. This is also why I say most hacks aren't hacks, all because of email mining and how easy it is for someone to get the information of many just by getting the email address of one. Your failed email to him likely didn't fail at all. When this happens, most people may try emailing from a different email address just to try other options. Had you let it go, he would have had your email and that would have been that. His follow up email is just to make himself look a bit more real.
  24. Yeah, some block people before they can be reported and tend to take a while to get banned. I just found it odd in his other posts here (all of which were deleted, which I think has to be done by admin), I think it was you that told him he should instead set up a profile on the main site to which he responded stating he didn't know how but would take a look at it later. Email mining scams aren't generally as obvious as the old houseboy in distress, send me money type scams. If you do email him (and you'd be a fool to do so), he might respond a few times, but his main goal is to just collect a list of email addresses that he can sell or get commission for. Then a week, a month, a year, down the line, you're suddenly getting the same few spam messages each month, or fake friend requests on Facebook or Instagram or other social media (if you use them), which also just mine data, and so on. In other words, the actual scams take place elsewhere, so yeah, most people might just think he's some guy that lost interest and never think twice about it. At least it's not a money grabbing scam, but still a scam all the same.
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