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  1. Just to clear something up based on a few private messages I've received: Yes, Airtel does some sort of business in most countries. However, any Airtel (Vodaphone) service in the United States goes through their partnered network called AT&T. Everyone in the US knows who AT&T is. Any phone that works on the AT&T network through Vodaphone will show only one network in the status bar of a phone or mobile device, and it would say AT&T. Airtel and BeSafe Airtel show up in the status bar as the network provider only in areas where Airtel is the actual provider. This would be limited to a few places in the Philippines, Africa, and their biggest service areas throughout India. The time noted on his phone when he sent that screen shot AND the network showing on his phone is what gives his particular location away. There simply is no other country in that time zone (UTC +5 or UTC +6) that operates the Airtel network.
  2. Yes, reported, blocked, all that good stuff. I don't so much mind the scammers because they tend to be super easy to spot, but I still always hope there aren't any good guys getting deterred from the fun they could be having with a good match. I don't even want to imagine how much less fulfilling my life would be had I not had my experiences as a houseboy.
  3. Thank you, and best of luck to the boys out there still hoping to find the few good (and real) employers left out there.
  4. Looks like he's still online with those pictures, same screen name. Apparently fake employers aren't removed as fast as fake houseboys.
  5. So this guy reached out again claiming I was being unfair and that I was wrong to call him fake. He said the thing about the bank was that he just sent me the wrong link because the bank actually is in California. So, he sent this screen shot to prove I was wrong: So, this is a different credit union. Similar name, but two totally different companies. Yeah, because it's totally normal to just forget which bank you're using to the point that you send a link and ask me to sign up to a different bank that doesn't exist in the state you originally said it was in. However... That's not even what stood out to me the most. Look in the in upper left-hand corner of this picture. It shows a network called BeSafe Airtel. I have heard of Airtel before, and I knew this was his personal phone. So with a quick check, I found out where they provide coverage: So, this guy lives in NY, posts his profile to show he lives in Louisiana, says he uses a bank he used when he lived in California except that bank doesn't exist in California, so he sends a screenshot of another bank from a phone being operated in India. Lol, seems legit. He has taken down these stolen pictures from his profile, but no matter what profile or pictures he use, his lines will be the same; he'll eventually want your bank account information.
  6. Jason, known as Jjason1 from Rapides Parish, LA is a complete fake. I have never posted the fake employers before since they're so fake and unbelievable, but this one was just a tad bit believable for a second, so I figured I'd save someone the time. He will come with a story about how he is going through a divorce and is trying to hide his money from his ex, but he likes you so much and wants to build something great with you and wants to start sending you money right away. All you have to do is open an account of his choice and give him the routing and account number. Lol. So, a few red flags: First off, one of the very first sentences in my profile states that I am no longer a houseboy. Though I have received more than a few offers lately, none of them have come without a man acknowledging this first. This guy didn't seem to notice that part. He says his location is in Queens, NY, but his profile shows he's in Louisiana. His phone number is from DC, and he insists on you using a bank that he opened an account with when he lived in California, even though this bank (credit union) doesn't have a single location in California. He says his name is Jason, but the pictures used are from a poor fellow that has been used on plenty of dating site scam profiles, those of both straight and gay natured. His pictures are easily searchable. He is also known as Wayne Lovell from Poland, Dr. Jeffery Dickson, Andy Baldwin, and so on. The second picture is the easiest to get search results on. He insists on using Whatsapp, but I made him go with regular test. He used the number 202 936 5239 which is out of DC. Here is a quote of why he said he wanted my account information: I understand what you mean honey, and I know you’re a very hard working guy , I have my reasons why I don’t use any of those apps you mentioned to make transfers , I’m currently under serious scrutiny from my ex, because of my divorce, we use a joint account so I can’t make any transactions without him finding out , I can only make transfers on my personal CU account and he has lawyers watching my every move ,he wants take half of what I own so I try to hide any financial transactions from him till my divorce is final , The only way I can transfer without him finding out is to add your account to mine then I can make the transfer, it only 24hrs at most to go through, I have no business with your personal life and It’s great that you’re comfortable with where you are , I know what that means , I have a lot of money and I feel it’s all vanity , I don’t let that define my life , I just thought that if you gonna be my house boy I should get a safe way to send you money without it affecting my divorce , I hope you understand where I am coming from He then goes on to say: It’s not a big deal honey , you should try relax and process the whole thing , i told you to open the CU account because it will be way easier to do transfers to you , I know you’re not willing to lose an opportunity of a lifetime because of whatever you believe . with all this stuffs you mentioned, I can only make limited transfers and I will need to send you like 20k upwards , because I want to furnish my new home , and do a little renovation on the house before I move in , and I wanted to send you the funds so you can help me handle it , Honey you don’t understand me , it’s not that I don’t want to use PayPal , I just can’t use it because of the issue with my divorce , I told you this is the safest way for me to send you the money without it affecting me , I didn’t mean to be offensive to you honey , what’s use will your account and routing number do for me , i really don’t understand why you keep mentioning thay I don’t want this to cause issues with us honey , this is just a very simple thing and I’m surprised you making it seem complicated, it’s like you getting a new job and they asked to get a new account to receive your pay , that’s how this is . My bank take just 24hrs at most for a transfer to go through, I think it’s actually worth the wait . Pls just relax . I don’t want us fighting about this You can have my banking information too if that will make you feel comfortable And after I pointed out to him just how unbelievable his story was without telling him I knew he was fake, he asked: Can I ask Why giving out your bank info is a very big deal ? So yeah, this guy is a fake. In all truth, he uses a script that is similar to a few other fake profiles that showed up as houseboys with different pictures. Likely the same scammer just playing any angle he can. No amount of promised money should make you ever give out your account information. In fact, you should never give out your banking info even if you're living with the guy. A serious "employer" here would never want a paper trail that would easily prove that he is paying you for your services which includes sex. Don't let any guy convince you that it is best to give your information so he can link your bank account. Even if your account is otherwise empty, you don't want to give someone the information that can give him access to all of the information associated with that account. I hope this saves someone from wasting their time with him. I don't think anyone would be foolish enough to just give out their bank account information, but far less realistic stories have been believed on here, so yeah...
  7. One of the oldest tricks, didn't know people were still pulling this one decades later. Remember that rule on this site about not exchanging money with anyone you haven't met? If not and you're sitting there with a check from this or some other cute boy or hot employer, ask yourself a few questions such as: Why would you think someone would need you in particular to cash a check for you when there are no fewer than a million check cashing places within 10 miles of everyone? You can even do mobile deposits of your own checks into almost any bank account. Don't have an account? Open one in less than 3 minutes on any of the endless apps like Chime or CashApp or Current. Pretty much everyone knows this, so why would some hot guy need you to use your bank account to cash a check? Another huge red flag: Did he offer to let you keep some of the money for your troubles? If that's the case, he could have paid a check cashing place far less to cash that same check and he could have gotten his money instantly (because checks can be verified instantly now, part of the reason this scam doesn't actually work anymore). Really, why would it make more sense for someone to put their check in the mail risking it being lost or taking forever to get to you (and not knowing if you'll even give them any of their money back) instead of just going down to a check cashing place, paying $10.00 or less, and having their cash in hand instantly? If they sent it certified mail, they had to go down to the post office or some mail post to get that done, or they know how to go online and get that set up to be able to do from home, so why would that same person not just go to a check cashing place nearby, or why would that tech savy person not know how to open up an account with one of the many mobile banking apps that exist? Last obvious flag is the fact that someone you've never met trusts you to cash and return their money at all. Not trying to scold you in particular; just pointing out the obvious red flags that people seem to suddenly ignore when a hot guy comes along promising the world and showing half naked pictures. Someone will hopefully read those questions themselves while they're waiting to get a check from someone and wise up before even bothering to take that hot check from that hot guy to the bank. In some states, just trying to cash a fake check will get you locked up. In fact, if you were pulled over and got caught with what was obviously a fake check, that too could get you locked up. Don't even have someone mail them to you out of curiosity. No boy is cute enough for that and no employer can pay me enough to risk that. By the way, if it's an employer that can afford to house and pay you to be cute for him but he can't open and use his own bank account, there's a reason.
  8. This sometimes happens to me only when I try to access this site on a mobile device. Make sure your browser is full screen and make sure you're viewing the desktop version of this site. This site can be... wonky at best sometimes. Just click the message icon once and wait. It sometimes takes a while for things to load on this site when you click on it. Even on a desktop, this happens sometimes, so I have found it best to come into this site in inPrivate or Incognito mode. It's kind of an old school site, so you just have to be gentle and patient with her and she'll work.
  9. If you were to just read what you posted, and read it carefully, you actually answer why you're not finding anyone that wants to spend time with you from this (or any) site. If I may just say... Houseboy.com is a fantasy site. I'm not saying no one is real here, but we're all here to fulfill a fantasy. No reasonable person comes to a fantasy niche site and use that to get an idea of the gay community. That would be like me going back to old Twitter posts, reviewing when Trump posted some of his fans chanting "white power, white power" and then assuming all white or Caucasian men and women are like that. See how unreasonably stupid that would be, to make assumptions about an entire people based on one group? Also, std's and sti's are nothing to scold someone over. There are very few people that go out and say "you know, I'm not coming home until I'm carrying a new disease or virus", and most of the people that do find out they have got it from someone that didn't exactly tell them. I know plenty of men and women that did everything right, wore condoms and everything, and still ended up catching something. The thing is, shaming someone about it isn't going to teach anyone anything about it, how to treat it if it happens, and how to prevent it from happening again. Back when gays had to stay in hiding, most of the hate that kept driving homophobic actions was based on ignorant people going off of what they guessed about gays because there weren't any gays brave enough to teach the truth about the kind of people we are and can be. Things got better because more truth finally came front and center and people stopped being shamed to the shadows of society. You're not smarter than anyone just because you've managed to avoid contracting any detectable std's or sti's, and keep in mind that it can take up to 10 years of testing for things like HIV to show up. Oddly enough the moment you stop thinking you're better than someone else, the easier it will be to connect with someone. I mean, here you are offering to pay and financially support a guy to sell yourself as a good catch and you're still sleeping alone because you're too busy trying to shame the very people you're trying to meet. That's real rich coming from a guy that can't even show his face. Don't give that excuse about people collecting pictures. I'm sure some people do, but no real man comes to a site to find someone by hiding away so that no one finds out he's on here. Seriously, how do you expect to find a guy when you make it impossible to be noticed? Seems like a real genius move there. So now you think it's time to rethink your sexuality. Really? So you're so real that you can just decide to be straight? You're so fed up with guys that you go and post on a gay site that you're going to straight? Yes, I'm sure that would make any gay guy feel comfortable devoting their time and energy to someone like that knowing he might wake up one day and get up out because his gay lover has suddenly chosen to go straight. If you were really fed up with gays, wouldn't it make more sense to just go to a straight site and find a chick? Do you think the gay guys on here are going to reach out to try to "save" you as if the gay community would be losing someone great? To sum up your post, guys with std's are gross dirty people, being HIV positive is basically a sin and we shouldn't accept people that are positive. You've had nothing but bad luck finding a good guy on any gay site or app, and even though the common denominator is you AND you even offer to pay and support a guy so that he likes you enough to give you a chance, the issue must be every other gay guy. Honestly, if you're anything like this post, the only thing you leave people thinking about you is that cocaine must be one hell of a drug. I say that because at first, I just thought you were some random guy on his high horse, but to think the way you do, you are clearly on something else.
  10. Basically, yes, but finding a legit host or houseboy can be just as easy as dating if done right. Since this is a fantasy site, some people tend to leave too much to fantasy, including ignoring those obvious red flags as if they're not really there. Stay true to yourself and it becomes impossible for a fake person on here to lead you on or take anything more from you than a few email exchanges on here. It's all fun and games to pretend you're meeting an "employer" to have to please sexually (or in my case, meeting that guy that is a tough boss at work but is a complete sub bottom at home and behind closed doors haha), but when you notice things like his house doesn't look like what he had in the picture or he's 25 years older than the picture he used, well, that's not fun and games, and that's nothing to ignore. Those are red flags; these are the reasons that, when I was a houseboy, even if a guy provided my transportation to him, I always had backup cash or an account that I could use to make my getaway if a guy turned out to be a complete fake or flake.
  11. I'm going to say what a lot of people probably wish they could say but can't because there's going to be someone that's far too woke to let certain people say. I apologize now to whoever I may offend. Remember, stuff like the 2020 protests and pretty much any civil rights issues really have nothing to do with personal preference when dating or finding sex partners. Sure, most gay profiles won't respond to people of color, but that's not racism. That's preference. As much as you can't explain why you're attracted to those white boys, they can't (and aren't really obligated to) explain to you why they're not attracted to men of color... kind of like how being straight doesn't make a guy homophobic if he doesn't date guys. On the other hand, don't assume your race is the issue. There are tons of reasons some guys don't respond. Do you have a profile on the main site here? Do you have an easy to see picture and good profile there? Is your profile offering exactly what those boys want? In any case, don't focus on those that don't respond, and don't let those that don't respond be what shapes your mood when you're on here. I can assure you from emails and contacts I've made on here there are plenty, (and I mean PLENTY) of good hosts and houseboys alike that absolutely LOVE men of color. I think the last 5 people that have emailed me on here have all been houseboys that have told me they would be my houseboy if I ever wanted to have one, and 4 of them were white guys. Up your game for what you're looking for so you can find the good guys that actually like or prefer men of color, and then focus on those good guys. If you're consistently being met with guys that aren't responding the way you like, stop looking for the same kind of guy. No amount of civil rights movements can or will or even should make people change their sexual preferences and desires. Even when looking for a houseboy, be with someone that truly wants you and is crazy about you, not someone that's going to be guilted into "giving you a chance" because of your skin color. We are not a charity case; we don't need some kind of affirmative action for dating or being on fantasy sites. There are times and places to throw out the race card, but on a houseboy site where we can all come to experience our fantasies, this isn't the place. We may not get as many likes or be in the "hottest profiles" or "most popular" sections. We may not get the gift of quanitity when it comes to it, but we damn sure get the gift of quality when those few amazing guys do get noticed, something you won't notice if you're focused on those other basic boys. I mean honestly, I personally wish guys could go back to putting "no Blacks" in their profile. Again, it's preference; that's not something I can be offended by, and it would save me a LOT of time reading through profiles as I would know who to not waste time on, but that's just me. I mean all that out of respect, not at all trying to be insensitive. I hope you find what you're looking for, and take pride in the fact that guys like us get to enjoy quality of quantity every time.
  12. Sorry that was so long, but while I love meeting houseboy that eventually make it on their own, I remember all that being a houseboy has done for me and cringe at the thought of someone that doubts the opportinities right in front of him. Don't miss out on what could be the best experiences you'll ever have in life.
  13. 1dIwg2A, your honesty here is refreshing (and rare for this site). As far as what you want in particular and how things work out with the guy you have been in contact with for some time, I truly do hope those things work out for you. Like I've said before, even with all the fake and flakes on sites like this, when I was a houseboy, I can say that I never had an issue finding another good position or arrangement, sometimes in less than 24 hours after one arrangement ended. Being a houseboy was, by far, one of the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm not saying every situation was ideal, but from each situation, I gained great knowledge that I was able to use in my everyday life. That's what made every arrangement great. Though I love being on my own doing my own thing, you better believe I have dabbled back into be a houseboy here and there with pride because someone wonderful came along and saw me as a compliment to his life. Anyhow, I'm responding to what you wrote for one reason, something you pointed out a few times that struck a cord with me. Being a houseboy can be whatever you make the situation to be, not just what the host or "employer" dictates. No one can decide for you what you take from any encounter, but fear can limit that a lot. The truth of the matter is that meeting someone in person after a few hours of chatting is no different or any less "safe" than meeting someone after months or years of chatting. Am I saying you should be more laxed about meeting people sooner? No, not at all. Can I personally say I've met and moved into houseboy arrangements after chatting for less than 24 hours? Yes. Did they work out? Yes. My first was chatting with a guy for 2 hours and then going to Key West to meet him and hang out for a week. I left 3 years later. The second time I did it was when my hosts in Palm Springs told me they no longer needed me and gave me 30 days to find another arrangement. That night I went online to a similar site like this and met a host that flew me out the next day to West Texas since he was/is a big time bank exec to the oil industry out there. That lasted beautifully for 7 or 8 months until I accidentally met the guy that I ended up dating for 9 wonderful years. What made me safe in all of those situations had nothing to do with the guy I met, but 100% to do with the guy I am. When you said "I'm not as happy as I'd like to be", that's just it; you can't depend on others to bring that to you. We sometimes think being around a generous wealthy guy will just make life so much better for us, but that will just leave you on an emotional (or financial) rolloercoaster as guys and situations tend to come and go. You have to get right with yourself first, and when you put your happiness first, you'll realize you can truly be happy with or without the money. The better off you are as a person before you dive into houseboy situations or relationships or even friendships, the more stable your entire life will be. I learned how to work from home doing basic customer service jobs or data entry jobs that didn't take away from the attention I could give to my hosts. Of course, those aren't "dream jobs" (well, it kind of is now during covid, glad I'm already at least 10 years used to working from home before 2020 hit), but those simple jobs are the reason I always had a few hundred or a few thousand dollars that I always had access to; I could leave at a moment's notice if I had to. That took care of the money issues. One thing about just being happy or comfortable enough to just move in with a guy came partially from having my own cash saved up, but most of it honestly came from finding my own peace before I sought out a houseboy position. I never took a houseboy position for anything, and I mean ANYTHING, that I "needed". I was a houseboy because I wanted to be. Going in more relaxed and secure emotionally is what helped me be more open to bonding with these guys and their life/lifestyle which caused the few positions I've had to be very long lasting positions. In fact, they all commented on how I was "always happy" or was "always so calm even in tough situations". The more confident and happy you are in yourself, the more confident you'll be about any situation you're in, and that translates to an employer that's far more confident in you. Don't run away from this site because certain types of people anger you or disappoint you. You won't find the right guy or situation when you're hiding because of the wrong one. On the other hand, being more sure of yourself and your own happiness and confidence will leave you less and less able to fall for the kind of guys you'd rather not be around or waste time with. You will start to truly learn what quality of quantitity truly means and how it doesn't always relate to financial or material things. Don't expect to the best houseboy without first being the best you first. Also, life is about living. A part of living is learning. Never have regrets. Regrets just mean you didn't learn anything from the situation before letting your emotions get the best of you. I'm not a religious person (at all), but I believe everything happens for a reason, and that reason is usually to learn from it. Sometimes when people aren't on your level and don't want to admit that, they call that "baggage" to try to bring you down to their level. We all have baggage. We all are, today, what we are from what we experienced yesterday. We take things with us along the journey called life to hopefully make tomorrow a bit better or easier or make more sense. It's when we hold on to things that aren't bringing us any good, like things that make us afraid to try something, that it becomes an issue. That's not baggage; those are called tethers. Baggage will allow you to travel along your journey, but tethers will keep you stuck in one place always thinking about it, always regretting something. I say most of that talking about how you mentioned the idea of moving in with someone you don't know is one of your biggest regrets. Well, think about it; when you take a job, what do you really know about the people you're suddenly left alone with? When you get a roommate, how much do you know about that person before you move in together? In those situations, you have the tools to walk away from those things if you notice they're not safe or healthy for you or your well being. I'm not sure why houseboys don't think they can't apply the same logic to meeting guys to maybe one day live with and work for. You won't find the right position if you expect to chat for a year or more before ever meeting a guy, I can just tell you that now; if you've chatting with someone for more than a year and neither of you have made the arrangement to actually meet, whether it be financial reasons or other fear, it's not going to happen or you should look at why it hasn't happened. For example, if you're wanting to be a houseboy for finacial gain but he can't afford to meet you in a year (not saying it's always up to the employer), don't expect him to be able to take care of you if and when you do finally meet. Maybe it's just the opposite; maybe he's waiting for you to show some initiative (because no host likes a lazy helpless houseboy) by showing that you're doing something to make the money so that you two can meet. In that case, if he finally does break down and pay your way, are you going to be able to impress him if you get there and are still the same helpless person he chatted with online? Also, you have to admit, if you truly are seeking a houseboy position and want to give it your all, a host won't really see that if you're not even willing to communicate as much as he wishes. If a host sees you have better things to do or just don't want to communicate as much as he does, he's not exactly going to then shell out the money or effort to bring you to him. If it's not about money but you haven't yet met because either of you aren't sure about the other or yourself, what will chatting do to actually fix the issue? You're both still who you are, so if it hasn't been enough of a match to meet yet, what will change that (unless someone starts changing their story)? So yeah, I love your honesty and how open you are on here with your response. Just get yourself and your situation right before worrying about any other guy or his situation and then when you come back to your search, you'll find it's much easier to find whatever it is you're looking for when you at least know who you are and what you want without doubt or reservation. Yes, it's a lot easier for the skinny twink boys that are just looking for daddy dick and a little money for taking it, and they're a dime a dozen which is why hosts go through them like drano through a sewage pipe, but if you're about something more than that, you have to come from a place of self confidence that will allow you to be and offer more so that you get the most out of the situation. You stated it so perfectly when you said "Seems like life ain’t one big cruise, and I gotta shape it how I want it to be if I wanna be certain." You're 100% right about that, but don't think you can't do that as a houseboy. The idea of the wonderful life as a houseboy is far more than a fantasy if you first put yourself in the right position to be able to find and be found by the right confident and happy host that feeds off of your confidence and happiness.
  14. There are two main reasons that answer the question you've asked, as well as few other things to consider. First, there are almost as many fake "employers" here as there are fake houseboys, and many houseboys have grown weary of it. That is part of the reason this site isn't anywhere near as active or popular as it used to be. Honestly, it's easier to find houseboy positions on any regular dating site as long as you position your profile to show that you are a houseboy or someone looking for one. Far fewer fakes on regular dating sites. Don't be so surprised when a boy is weary of a "free" arrangement, one which yours isn't. The second part of that is that it does, indeed, come off odd that someone would post so many messages in a few days time seeming to get more and more desperate (I don't mean to use that word disparingly) about needing to find a boy. Just relax and be yourself. The right boy will come to you when it is meant to happen. I'm sure you two have a lot to offer (I know I enjoyed my time in Palm Springs as a houseboy, can't imagine a good boy not wanting to take advantage of that too), but put those good things forward instead of the desperation. Again, I hate to use that word "desperate" because it always has such a negative connotation; I just mean you're coming on far too strong to have so much to offer. I said there were two reasons, but there is a third and a fourth reason to consider, starting with pictures. Updated, recent, clear face pictures. Your profile on the main site has two pictures, neither of which a person can clearly see your faces. I understand the need for privacy as most of the men I worked for when I was a houseboy were high profile guys, but in all reality, few people using a houseboy site are on here trying to not be noticed. A few face pictures will make a huge difference. Yes, the dick pic of the younger half of your union is hot, but honestly, it's not showing anything that any other young boy on here can't show or currently isn't showing. A face will always stand out as more sincere and welcoming than a nude pic. In the end of my time as a houseboy, as well as a date or two that I've had from this site, they were guys I met and messaged here on the forums (the private messages) rather than on the main site (which is far slower). Adding a few pictures here wouldn't hurt. That fourth reasons is the fact that you're a couple. This won't be an issue to the right boy, so nothing wrong with not being single. The thing is, which one of you is writing this profile and these ads/messages? It always turns out there one person tends to want the "third" far more than the other. On the other hand, when you have a couple that are so different, it's not unreasonable to run into the issue of the houseboy really being far more into one than the other. We can only assume the person behind this profile is the older gentleman when you look at the turn ons listed in the profile and how much they match the smooth young boyfriend/husband you already have, as well as the forum responses to Asian houseboy ads. A houseboy can only wonder why, if you already have that at home, would you need or want more, and what he would have to do to fit in to whatever it is you're not getting. That brings me to the next point, which is the idea of free room and board. No, it's not free. Any houseboy knows he will have to put out in order to give you, the employer, everything you're looking for or suggesting in your profile. The only guys that can just disconnect and be sexual with anyone in exchange for a place to sleep are... well, that's why this site is a fantasy site, not a true employment site. Although you never come out and say you're looking for sex, it's quite obvious you are. I mean, no one posts a picture of a cute young smooth naked Asian (or any) man as a part of a job profile. That brings me back to my previous point; though the only nude pic is of your boy, is that who the third person gets to be the most focused on sexually, or should they be someone attracted to the exact opposite of that, which is you? If so, why lure him in with something he's not really there to get? Also, if a houseboy doesn't fit what you desire the most, he might not feel he would be your first choice even if you do pick him. Seeing the sexy boy you already have and seeing you seeking something else/more, why would a houseboy on here think you'd would want him any more and not just send him packing in a month or so? Relocating multiple times is never free. Also, I mentioned that you never really stated you wanted to find another boy for sex, but it's obvious that's what you want based on what you wrote. Other houseboys might notice that you seem to intentionally not fully state what you want. Even your post here, you just end the sentence mid thought with three periods. You do the same thing in your profile. This shows that you might not be the kind of man that just gets to the point or states things straight out. If a houseboy is in need of a stable man to live with, you must know that being unable to state things clearly is not a sign of stability or even honestly to be quite frank. What stops a grown man from being able to state what is on his mind? It almost looks like you're embarassed to let people know that you would have a guy give you sex in order to stay with you. Again, this site is fantasy. This isn't real employment or anything like that. As long as it's consentual, any real man would have no issue owning up to what he likes. As sites like this fade into history, there is no reason to fully enjoy whatever it is you like, and you won't find the right boy that likes the same if you're hiding from it. With all that being said (I know, it was a lot, but I am sitting here bored while working, so meh...), anyone can tell your heart (and desires) are in the right place, and that you two have a lot to offer. Just don't cloud it by putting up a sense of desperation when anyone can see from what you already have waiting for you at home that you don't have to be. Still, be realistic about the idea of offering room and board in exchange for a sexual and likely emotional connection that this houseboy would have to make with you two, which makes it anything but free. State what you want, but show them what they're getting; make him want it instead of making him have to wonder. I mean hey, that worked for me. I'm not a twink, not a bottom, not the "ideal" boy in any way, yet I never had a gap between houseboy positions when I was a houseboy. If I was able to always find good arrangements, I know a guy living in a nice area that can support more than one boy who would take advantage of all that just by doing some chores and having sex would be a dream for a lot of the houseboys here. There are tons of hot employers on here that do get right to the point about what they want without sugarcoating things, so don't expect to stand out beating around the bush (especially when it's quite clear you don't want a bush to beat around in the first place). Happy hunting!
  15. xdc91 trust me, you're never too old to be a houseboy. I know plenty good houseboys in their 40's. Hell, even I keep getting offers in my mid 30's and my first line reads "no longer a houseboy". If you're good at what you do (and depending on what kind of guys you're wanting to notice you), your age won't have anything to do with it. Keep doing what you do and don't ever feel you're too old to be whatever you want to be. Trust me, there are plenty of men that will desire an older houseboy.
  16. ... or just ignore him and be done with him. If he's a scammer, a bunch of people emailing him would just leave him with a bunch of email addresses he could use to send all kinds of spam and junk to or have others send junk to. Sounds like a pretty poorly thought out plan for revenge, don't you think? The fakes are annoying, but there's no good reason to play their games when there's so many real boys you could be focused on.
  17. ^^^^ That logic is what anti-maskers and anti-vaxers use to justify being stupid about covid. Think about it; this is a site where boys can advertise themselves to get hired to have sex with men that they clean house for. Sex for money. That's quite illegal and is called prostitution, or at least it would be if this site positioned itself as an official job listing site. In your profile, you can list your sexual desires along with your pay requirements. What legal jobs do you have to list those things together? Of course this site is fantasy. The admins here wouldn't dare list themselves as an employer or employment agency for what this site offers. Now, I'm not trying to "defend" this site. It has its ups and downs like any other. It's not my favorite site, but I was lucky enough to be a houseboy when there were several other competing sites like this (and they were all great). This site can be frustrating, but I still love the connections I make here even to just make friends. However... It would be absurd to go to a website that lists sexual desires and payment requirements in each profile to find a serious companion. That would be as effective as going to a strip club and telling them to keep the music down so you can use their wifi to attend a video conference call for work, and then blame them for not creating a more work friendly environment. The irony of the use of the word "absurd" is that now you might start to see why the guys here aren't really taking you seriously. Still, I hope you find what you're looking for.
  18. Remember that this site is pure fantasy. There are no real jobs here, just arrangements. Sure, dating is "possible" from this site, but you can't get upset that most guys you meet on this fantasy arrangement site seem to be interested in something far less serious than the companionship you desire. Also, remember that on this site (or any site), no one owes you a response or a level of communication as deep as what you see fit. There is no reason to focus on those that can't communicate with you the way you seek. There is no reason to try to "teach" everyone the right way to treat you. If you're looking for companionship as you say, why focus on what so many guys are doing wrong when you could be searching for and focusing on that one guy that responds the right way? You're looking for one, not trying to appeal to the masses. When I was a houseboy, I only used this site to fulfill those fantasies I had. While some people offer pay, I never took pay from guys from this site because I knew I was meeting them because I was attracted to them. When it came to the real houseboy positions where I was paid on an actual payroll, taxes taken out, all that stuff, that came from other places. I'm not saying there's no serious boys on this site, but you can't fault anyone on this site for not taking things as serious as you do when this is a site that advertises housing a boy in exchange for his help in and out of the bed. If you seek true companionship, it's likely not going to be found on a site that that is sponsored by porn. Even the "Help and Info" page on this site features lines like "Rubbers are for women and children on a rainy day – not for a little piggy's bedroom!" and "Cum inside our bulletin boards and chat rooms and get ready for a nasty ride!". In other words, don't take stuff so seriously on this site. Sure, some guys may just stop responding or not respond... okay, that's a polite way of letting you know they're not interested. Guys on a fantasy website might not be logging in here to find a boyfriend or loving companion. Employers and houseboys don't all have the responsibilities here that you set out just because it's what you want. Every single man I met on this site, they paid my way to meet them 100%. It wasn't a requirement; that's just the only guys on this site I met. Instead of complaining about those that didn't meet that standard of mine, I just focused on those that were truly interested that did. I DID have one responsibility, though. Even though I was the younger top that loved to play the role of the dominant top that was "stuck" with a helpless older man that "couldn't get rid of me" (yeah, that was fun), in all reality, I always, ALWAYS had a way out that I provided for myself, whether it be a plane ticket, train ticket, came in my own car, etc. That and the decision to use condoms was NEVER up to the other person. On this and any other site of fantasy, my only responsibilities were to myself. Otherwise, I simply am or am not someone else's fantasy, and I'll focus on those that I am. I hope you find what you're looking for. Truth be told, there needs to be more good guys out there looking for something "real" with one special guy, but don't expect to find that right away on a fantasy website, and don't be bothered by those that don't share your same desires.
  19. The options to report a fake profile need to be modified. If you're talking to a guy and you suspect he's fake, he might block you before you can report him. Once you're blocked, you can't even report him. Then guys post the "fakes" in here hoping someone else will block him, but they kind of can't since a random person might not have any evidence to support reporting that fake profile. Once you're blocked by a person, you can't even access any of your messages on here to copy and share them to report. I'm not saying messages between blocked members should be accessible even when blocked, but the ability to report a fake profile should remain active. Also, why not put some kind of banner in the messaging part of this website that makes a person have to read through something telling them that they should never have to send money to a boy for any reason, no matter how sad or urgent their sob story is? Perhaps having a box to check off that says something making us agree that we're not going to send any boy money every time we click to send a message? The only thing that will stop the scammers is if they know they're on a site where people aren't careless enough to fall for their stories and fake pictures, so why not mention the rule of not sending money in more places that we'd have to see while or before communicating with others? Maybe even a banner on the home page itself, or a pop up that you have to read and agree to every time we enter the site or go to the messaging link?
  20. Quality over quantity. Believe me... there is nothing to be sorry about. I may not have been through as many men on this site when I was a houseboy, but the men I did meet kept me for years at a time. My time as a houseboy is the reason I get to live a life travelling and being my own boss today. Thank goodness that 25% is far better than what washes up in the other 75%. You don't have to learn to "think as a houseboy". You need to learn to simply be yourself. The right employer or host or lover will love you for it and never let you go. Taking the time to narrow it down to the few good matches will reward you far more than wasting time with the many bad arrangements, but you won't get to any of the good unless you stop trying to be what you see in "hot houseboy of the day" photos and just be yourself (as long as the "yourself" isn't a judgmental twink; those are a dime a dozen).
  21. Preference when searching for a partner or sexual match is not the same as negative or hurtful discrimination. Being fem is not the same thing as being or living as a woman, and maybe DJHJD is simply stating a fact. His statement is great news for anyone looking for a woman or a man that lives as one, but is, without any disrespect, a heads up for those of us that aren't at all into women (cis or not). He didn't say or imply that there was anything wrong with it, but if the ads in that area on that site consist mostly of men pretending to be women, that's just stating facts. Being judgmental isn't any better than discriminating, but when searching for what you actually want, you have every right to discriminate rather than settle. If I thought like you, I'd be offended every time I see a guy that doesn't date black guys (which is usually about 3 out of ever 4 profiles). That's not discrimination or anything to take personal; I'd rather be with someone that adores me rather than be with someone that thinks he's doing me a favor. Lighten up... you're on a houseboy site after all.
  22. This isn't a "hot" response, but... Having been a houseboy, the duties expected will vary widely from one household to the next. There is no "one answer generalizes it all" kind of answer to that question. However, you can know what to expect by not being afraid of setting limits and boundaries. What and which duties you're "expected" to carry out are up to you. It's all about what you are or are not willing to do, even if you're the submissive type. However... Personally, I can tell you that a picture sometimes helps with expected duties. Sounds strange, but it does give a man an idea of what you can do for him. I was always something like the body guard or the driver or a combination of both along with simple household stuff. Then when men found out I loved auto mechanics and fixing stuff, I ended up being the handyman. Yes, I'll admit, more than once I was attracted to the guy I was working for, and every time sex happened, I initiated or made it clear I wouldn't be offended if he did. What can I say... a well aged man is often times irresistible, and when they get a reason to slow down from work to be romanced for a change, well... haha they all responded well to it. I can also say that in my experience, the harder he works and the more in charge he has to be at work, the more willing he is to melt in my arms behind closed doors when he gets home. It's fun making a bottom out of a "top" that doesn't have time for the games the boys in his area play. To greet a tired man at the door, take his clothes off, and before he can say a word, just bend him over whatever furniture is nearby, and not let him out of your grip til he has to leave the next day for work (or make him quite late for work)... mmmm damn, some good memories there. Sorry to all you twinks and young guys, but to find a mature man that can stand alone from you easily but make him helpless to your grip, your passion, your desire for him just means a lot more than railing some young pushover. Then, to get to dress him in the morning... yeah, most men I worked for were often times late to work. There were those that I got to visit on their lunch break. I can say that office furniture can support far more weight and abuse than they're rated for, but make sure the swivel on his chair has a locking option, and always make sure he has a can of WD-40 or mechanical lube in his desk or office. Nothing ruins a good secret faster than squeaky springs in office furniture. You should only have to focus on keeping your boss quiet, not his office furniture. Damn. Those memories make me wish I had still been a houseboy when covid hit. I could just imagine quarantining with some hard working guy that's now stuck at home at Zoom meetings. The things I'd do to him as I made him keep a straight face on camera....
  23. I'm glad "slavery" for you will get to be something so enjoyable and pleasurable. Happy hunting.
  24. Oh good, then I don't have to feel like an outcast about noticing stuff like that.
  25. All of the scammers already give you a symbol. It tends to be a big red flag. They ask for money. That's your sign he's a scammer. No boy is thin enough, cute enough, or young enough to need cash or gifts from you before ever meeting. The only thing a person should have to send to a boy is their flight or train or bus itinerary which can be done via email. The symbol is there, just don't ignore that big red flag.
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