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  1. Negotiating terms of engagement

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    On 12/13/2019 at 10:11 AM, Dad49 said:

    Sometimes, I think we look at the sexual side of an arrangement to the point that we neglect the practical aspects. Many of the potential houseboys that i have looked at seriously have indicated that they need health benefits. That is very wise, but can be costly. I cannot afford to self-insure myself, nor could I bear full responsibility for the healthcare of a young man. The kinds of insurance available on The Exchange via the ACA -those with low premiums- would, in the event of a major illness, require more deductible and co-pay dollars that a houseboy could probably afford. One solution I’ve suggested meets with mixed reaction from those I’ve reached out to: the houseboy would secure part-time employment with an employer that offers group health insurance.  Then, if the employee share of that insurance was onerous to the houseboy, I could help with that cost.  In that way, at least I’d be paying for insurance that actually offers accessible benefits   But many houseboy candidates balk at the idea of holding other employment, even if I adjust my requirements at home.  Part of this is related to the young man’s sense of invincibility, they can’t see needing it.  Others see outside employment as outside of their expected role.  Of course owners of businesses that carry employee health plans might find ways to include o houseboy in that plan. But most of us don’t find ourselves in such a position.

     

    An aside on another topic, I agree with Buck52 who dislikes the term, “houseboy.”  I think it can be somewhat demeaning to the gentleman upon which I would so depend.   This week, I’m going to try on the title, “Valet-companion.”  Any thoughts?

     

    Valet is a better choice since its basically their role 

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