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xdc91 trust me, you're never too old to be a houseboy. I know plenty good houseboys in their 40's. Hell, even I keep getting offers in my mid 30's and my first line reads "no longer a houseboy". If you're good at what you do (and depending on what kind of guys you're wanting to notice you), your age won't have anything to do with it. Keep doing what you do and don't ever feel you're too old to be whatever you want to be. Trust me, there are plenty of men that will desire an older houseboy.

It really is a new world out there, and in this world there are more slippery and dishonest people than I care to admit. The fact is, we have a certain (small number, thank goodness!) of people who are so far out there in fantasy-land, it's truly doubtful they know a shady lie from an honest answer. But I do tell you what, there is always those people who are open and honest about seeking someone in their lives, and there are a few ways to tell them from the wannabees and liars, for one, they start off with treating a forum like this as a resume, and tell you, upfront, a lot more than "Hey I am cute, hire me, or,...come live with me!" They give you an idea of their situation, "just out of school," " living at home," "recently discharged veteran," or, on the employer side you get, "couple needing helper," "Houseboy needed," and THEN, you get some kind of introduction, like, "I want to start over, things have been confused in my life too long," or, "ambitious sexy boy looking to belong to a house where open relationships, experimentation, curiosity-filled, exhibitionism is the norm," or, "previously anorexic in relationships guy, once a closet-case has devoted his life to discovery, and not being ashamed of my decision, and needs help to learn what is possible on this side of the fence!" "Help wanted, assistant who has figured out his parents knew nothing about raising a Gay boy, and whose needs include guidance in finding my own ranges and limits in Life! " Sure this all sounds familiar, because we have BEEN there, and should no longer be afraid to admit we have ideas, desires, and a need to explore something we just haven't the capacity to explore alone. Face it, no one was born an expert in any endeavor, to include being gay, and without a bit of help, guidance, and experience, It's seriously doubtful anyone will learn to grow and be a part of ANY community. Such imaginative tag lines are not beyon anyone's imagination, you have your own story to share, it should reflect not ONLY the actual desire to join the community, but does not hide and betray the fact someone is just looking to take advantage and use people. We will leave that for the ones who refuse to blend in some details about their experience, the desire to move ahead and the absolute NEED to share this experience with others, be guided or assisted in your life, and, overall, be a decent and open person who actually cares about others and wishes to participate, and not just prey on others by putting up shy feelers which cry for notice, but do nothing to detail things like goals, Shyness may be a fact, but it is also a MASK which can hide acceptance, a false person, and fail to reveal experience, which can help to reveal someone's actual abilities, or hide a desire to find guidance. And let's face it, it is NOT just Houseboys who need guidance, it is anyone who wishes to be a part and take PRIDE in our community. Let's reach out a bit farther, take hold of your manhood and actually open up about what you seek, are offering, and are capable of.

I really wish people who were serious would realize that it's far better to list a bit more than just a skimpy ad, try a profile and a picture.

Woulldn't it be far easier to put at least one photo, and your profile online??

Couldn’t get my profile back or start a new one…..not sure why….. but I have a fetlife account with pictures if any employers/daddies are interested haha. Just shoot me a message and we can chat!

This is my first time on this website, and I thought I’d give it a try. I am in my 30s, 130 lbs, 5’7”, and Asian. I have a prior houseboy experience where I did some cooking, office work, and outdoor work. If you are interested in getting to know me, add me or even message me to say hi!

Houseboy 'Calldanied' is bad news. ive chatted with my fellow houseboy via telephone and he talked about robbing the employers he would come in contact wiith in the future. Stay clear from this one ,just to be on the safe side.

... or just ignore him and be done with him. If he's a scammer, a bunch of people emailing him would just leave him with a bunch of email addresses he could use to send all kinds of spam and junk to or have others send junk to. Sounds like a pretty poorly thought out plan for revenge, don't you think? The fakes are annoying, but there's no good reason to play their games when there's so many real boys you could be focused on.

The names Johnbreslaws & John2 are both scammers. If you read their profile/bio fully & carefully they are about 95 to 100% the same. Just using 2 different pictures & locations. I texted with Johnbreslaws@gmail.com and he is not honest & for real. He gave me a birth date that makes himself 20 years old & he lists himself as 22. The picture he sent me in our emails does not match the one on the site. If I were you I would avoid them by all means. Or everyone who reads this could email bomb his Johnbreslaws@gmail.com address & tell him what a low-life he really is. HA-HAAA

^^^^ That logic is what anti-maskers and anti-vaxers use to justify being stupid about covid. Think about it; this is a site where boys can advertise themselves to get hired to have sex with men that they clean house for. Sex for money. That's quite illegal and is called prostitution, or at least it would be if this site positioned itself as an official job listing site. In your profile, you can list your sexual desires along with your pay requirements. What legal jobs do you have to list those things together? Of course this site is fantasy. The admins here wouldn't dare list themselves as an employer or employment agency for what this site offers. Now, I'm not trying to "defend" this site. It has its ups and downs like any other. It's not my favorite site, but I was lucky enough to be a houseboy when there were several other competing sites like this (and they were all great). This site can be frustrating, but I still love the connections I make here even to just make friends. However... It would be absurd to go to a website that lists sexual desires and payment requirements in each profile to find a serious companion. That would be as effective as going to a strip club and telling them to keep the music down so you can use their wifi to attend a video conference call for work, and then blame them for not creating a more work friendly environment. The irony of the use of the word "absurd" is that now you might start to see why the guys here aren't really taking you seriously. Still, I hope you find what you're looking for.

Fantasy site? True as that is, it's absurd.

Sorry I deleted my main profile early this year, was focusing on other things at the time but I will create a new one!

I searched for your profile but nothing comes up. Your first step would be to create a profile that potential employers can fine. You sound like a really nice person.

So I’m new to the area , hoping to find an employer that’s ok with me being a visiting houseboy :) I can cook a few different things , love kinkily cleaning while Nude, and overall want to explore a HB dynamic. I am more so looking to be spoiled and explore kinks than have a space to live but could be a live in for the right person.

Remember that this site is pure fantasy. There are no real jobs here, just arrangements. Sure, dating is "possible" from this site, but you can't get upset that most guys you meet on this fantasy arrangement site seem to be interested in something far less serious than the companionship you desire. Also, remember that on this site (or any site), no one owes you a response or a level of communication as deep as what you see fit. There is no reason to focus on those that can't communicate with you the way you seek. There is no reason to try to "teach" everyone the right way to treat you. If you're looking for companionship as you say, why focus on what so many guys are doing wrong when you could be searching for and focusing on that one guy that responds the right way? You're looking for one, not trying to appeal to the masses. When I was a houseboy, I only used this site to fulfill those fantasies I had. While some people offer pay, I never took pay from guys from this site because I knew I was meeting them because I was attracted to them. When it came to the real houseboy positions where I was paid on an actual payroll, taxes taken out, all that stuff, that came from other places. I'm not saying there's no serious boys on this site, but you can't fault anyone on this site for not taking things as serious as you do when this is a site that advertises housing a boy in exchange for his help in and out of the bed. If you seek true companionship, it's likely not going to be found on a site that that is sponsored by porn. Even the "Help and Info" page on this site features lines like "Rubbers are for women and children on a rainy day – not for a little piggy's bedroom!" and "Cum inside our bulletin boards and chat rooms and get ready for a nasty ride!". In other words, don't take stuff so seriously on this site. Sure, some guys may just stop responding or not respond... okay, that's a polite way of letting you know they're not interested. Guys on a fantasy website might not be logging in here to find a boyfriend or loving companion. Employers and houseboys don't all have the responsibilities here that you set out just because it's what you want. Every single man I met on this site, they paid my way to meet them 100%. It wasn't a requirement; that's just the only guys on this site I met. Instead of complaining about those that didn't meet that standard of mine, I just focused on those that were truly interested that did. I DID have one responsibility, though. Even though I was the younger top that loved to play the role of the dominant top that was "stuck" with a helpless older man that "couldn't get rid of me" (yeah, that was fun), in all reality, I always, ALWAYS had a way out that I provided for myself, whether it be a plane ticket, train ticket, came in my own car, etc. That and the decision to use condoms was NEVER up to the other person. On this and any other site of fantasy, my only responsibilities were to myself. Otherwise, I simply am or am not someone else's fantasy, and I'll focus on those that I am. I hope you find what you're looking for. Truth be told, there needs to be more good guys out there looking for something "real" with one special guy, but don't expect to find that right away on a fantasy website, and don't be bothered by those that don't share your same desires.

New Houseboys should realize this space is like a resume spot for recruitment by Men who have an opening, not just in their home, but in their lives for a worthwhile guy who wishes to live within the Gay community as a helper and part of our family. The internet it seems, has created a new means to form attachments, but the fact is, many men are seeking to have a REAL companion, and it's a shame that there are no formal rules for communication, just a polite, and open suggestion that people realize they are in a marketplace, trying to "sell" your experience, desires, goals and future hopes to be a part of the community, and a family, in a significant way. Likewise, guys seeking a Houseboy have the responsibilty to realize they are not "hiring" an indentured servant, who is obligated to adhere to any whim, kink, situation or demand you make, you are selecting someone that you wish to take on in a mutually beneficial situation. To those unfortunate losers who are basically predators in locating and abusing guys for a time and hope to find someone as gullible and irresponsible of their own future and safety, well, there is a thing called Karma which will eventually place you into a situation where you belong! For those Houseboy wannabees who think they can lie and obfuscate their way into a position of some reward, give it up, the situation is there are many more out there who see through you just by the sheer fact you do not communicate well, tend to change stories, and will point you out to others long before you have a chance to profit much, and realistically, you have no future in duping people, there are too many of them, and too few braincells in your pathetic cranium! This leaves those few serious people who are sincerely pressing to locate a companion, adopt and bring them into something which can really only be described as the ride of your life. Sure, there are pitfalls, drugs, alcoholism, petty and demented guys on both sides, who just wanna take any advantage they can, but,in the end, that kind of behavior is short-lived and best sought out for exposure, and getting someone banned from participation in polite company. Perhaps this is the best advice to give, there is a polite, thriving community which welcomes people who deserve a place, and that same community is strong enough to weed out and segregate users and abusers alike from participating. The main point of this is the need for communication, what you will find is those who are worthwhile do have the ability to tell you what they are seeking, how they either desire, or offer help, and who can easily convey the idea of feelings, needs and those skills, abilities and hopes they bring to the table. It all starts with communication, so if you hide, fail to respond, or tend to not purposely say enough about yourself and prove to each other a sincerity and caring attitude, it will show, those people who only discuss "ME, ME, ME!" are the ones who have neither the ability or attitude to help or support anyone, themselves, included.

It’ll clearly be for money - he’s just not bright enough to do it. Ask to WhatsApp him - he’ll be unable to…

I have had a number of "excellente" Houseboys, used to run a gay Inn in Texas, and so I had a decent selection of boys, both students, and local boys with varied backgrounds and experiences. I would attest to the fact that if you do not have a decent profile on here displaying your strengths, goals, skills, and desires to receive from an employer, AND check your messages daily, reply in a rapido manner, and fill out a membership detailed listing, no one will try and contact you.

.......I thought raw was ONLY for the Pizza delivery boy? It seems that HINTING that the majority of people approve somehow suggests it's the common "thang" out thereabouts,... Wouldn't it be a lovelier world if people kept their pet desires, fantasies and eccentricities as fodder for more personal discussions, and not put out there what they assume many are doing. It's kinda like this, in the past I have had houseboys who were absolutely fine with sex as part of the deal, and then there were those who stipulated a "hands off" policy upfront. Do I see an issue with this relative individuality? NO, but it's kind of always been my point of view that you find a suitable and compatible helper, and then discuss details before the actual deal is made. If either party is to blame for a lack of communication, it is the person LOOKING for the Houseboy who failed to align the rules and expectations to the skills, and limits of the Houseboy. In short, teacher, teach me better. Suffice it to say, that we are all either Gay here, or accepting of a Male to Male model of interaction, and that, simply put, sex has to be, at the very least, part of the open discussion, and usually, if that one precept is not 100% agreed and affirmed, ahead of time, and BY BOTH PARTIES, then both parties should walk away,... or run, in some cases! What I really suggest also, as a warning, is to open up about your own deisres, and avoid people with set-in-stone "ABSOLUTES," meaning, either you do this (or don't!), or we do not move ahead, and this, as with sex, is a warning to BOTH parties involved, to steer clear of any and all assumed "absolutes." Clear, concise communication, to the point of "getting it in writing" should be something more seriously considered.

I keep seeing the same thing, and it really could be two things indicated. First, I see Houseboys pleading to be asked questions, and then complaining that no one answers them, and two, I see people reaching out for someone to listen, both seekers AND Houseboys, but failing to realize the reason is, they have said nothing to respond to. Do us ALL a favor, take the time to realize you are responsible here to communicate enough about yourself to attract attention, if you are a Houseboy, and you have the responsibility to display the traits and characteristics which make you unique, desirable, and needed. If you are seeking a Houseboy, please extend everyone the courtesy to know your background, likes, and then describe a bit about what you seek, and what you offer in return, why wait until you have 2-3 responses to realize the person talking to you hasn't a clue how to communicate, or is so messed up they cannot even open up a conversation. It is the duty of someone seeking a Houseboy not only to start the dialog, but to draw the Houseboy into a meaningful conversation, empty, shallow responses are just an indication you are being dicked around by either a scam player, or chanced upon someone without the skill or ability to convey their better selves, and making a cry for help towards finding a teacher.

I got an email from Ken this morning with the same info you just mentioned. He hasn't sent anything yet. What is his scam anyway?

I'd like to answer the people writing me. but I can't. Why is that?

I'm willing to talk If you want.