[why is the site so slow?]

Recently it has started to work again, but is VERY slow in opening, but it is working.  I would estimate about 5 minutes?  I keep having hit the "wait" button.

 

[looking for a friend]

Thank you GreatHome, I also think he is just writing to everyone who has been in the forums, going down the list and sending his "looking for a nice person".

[why is the site so slow?]

I use it, but it takes a LONG time.  I have 500 mps download, so my guess is that their server is very slow and has a badly designed sort program.