DJHJD
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22 hours ago, Propman said:
Is it customary to charge a fee if you help relocate/rehome a son, particularly for a dad/son relationship.
No
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2 hours ago, Buck52 said:
Warning to All:
Latest houseboy to avoid is manuel45
Youve been warned.
He hit me up; saw he was out of the country and didn't respond
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On 8/26/2019 at 3:38 PM, Buck52 said:
Sorry to learn of that. What a bummer and a waste of a man’s time, energy and resources. I had one of those last fall. Spent most of his time on his phone or watching tv. Sent him home a week into our two week agreed upon trial stay. What a lazy lout.
This one lasted two and a half days of his two week agreed upon trial stay.
I had to remove the toilet seat to fully clean it.
I keep seeing these profiles that are suggesting the would be houseboys are homeless. Yikes.
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On 8/23/2019 at 10:24 AM, Buck52 said:
Lol! Well DJHJD, better late than never, as they say. I’m glad he came through for ya. So now we are all curious how it turned out. Is he a keeper or not? Best a luck to everyone out there.
An utter disaster. Nothing he had said before coming was true; he turned out to be long term homeless with only the clothing on his back and no interest in doing anything but occupying space. Sent him on his way immediately.
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On 8/4/2019 at 5:46 PM, DJHJD said:
Another scammer - Seeking 4339 - goes by Tyler. Got me for the price of a non-refundable bus ticket for an initial visit. Dropped out of communication immediately thereafter.
Even got a state ID from him that seemed to legitimize everything.
Oh, well.
Well, I take that back. He showed up, just two weeks later.
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7 hours ago, bacha said:
doublelist.com is a reasonable but not not perfect craigslist replacement, so far US only
At least here in Houston, doublelist is nearly entirely populated by deeply closeted men who can only access their desires by pretending to be women...
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Another scammer - Seeking 4339 - goes by Tyler. Got me for the price of a non-refundable bus ticket for an initial visit. Dropped out of communication immediately thereafter.
Even got a state ID from him that seemed to legitimize everything.
Oh, well.
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On 7/24/2019 at 12:36 PM, Buck52 said:
To Educatedhelper, I was not calling you out or blasting you and I apologize now if that it how I came across to you. It certainly wasn’t my intent. I was only bringing up the reality and the facts that we ALL face here, both houseboys and employers. I know you know that that’s just how it is in today’s world. I’m certainly not jaded either, in fact I’m one of the most optimistic men you’ve never had the chance to meet. I still have faith in mankind. I don't think I’m a fool even though I’ve done some foolish things regarding sending money to potential houseboys and getting burned every time in the process. Once burned, always learned. If you think that makes me jaded that’s in you. I call it getting educated at the school of hard knocks. The old saying holds true today, a fool and his money soon part. Point is, until a strong sense of “trust” is developed between the two parties, chances of handing over money with no guarantees whatsoever, regardless of the receiver’s intent, are slim and none. That’s just the way it is. I didn’t create that atmosphere that exists in today’s world but I’ve certainly been a victim of it, numerous times. My fault, no one else’s. No one “made” me send them money for what I thought were good intentions that turned out not so much. I keeping up my side of an agreement with the other side not doing so. I’m not here to judge you for what you said or did or your intentions or anything else. Just doing a reality check. Good luck to you and everyone else out there seeking a mutually beneficial, working, pleasant, enjoyable relationship through this site.
Explanations and hot pics aside, sending someone a $1200 PayPal money request after the exchange of a couple of chat messages would normally and reasonably push anyone into doubt - jaded or not. To associate my recoiling both at funding a request for $1200 for some pretty pictures (no discussion of travel or meeting had yet been had) and at further discussion with being parsimonious or without resources is just shaming behavior that is not grounded in reality.
I will say that the shock of such behavior, along with that of "Iambronson" has caused me to be jaded enough to terminate and frequently report any conversation with someone who asks for money when there has been no substantive conversation about meeting, agreements, arrangements and such. I will proudly wear a t-shirt emblazoned with "Jaded Old Bastard" if that's how it is to be viewed.
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Another one to watch out for - "Educated Helper". After an afternoon of messages being exchanged, he sent me a PayPal request for $1400 to "help" him with his internet and mobile phone bill.
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"Iambroson"'s new handle is "kbronsony" - don't even engage with him
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On 3/30/2019 at 4:39 PM, Southerner said:
As far as guys looking for money add "Iambronson" to the list
Iambronson has himself a new profile and screen name. Same picture though.
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He's still at it. Dunlap Tennessee. Exact same story.
His current HB user ID is 2bhappnva3
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Interesting thread. Some thoughts are heartwarming and reassuring that there are good and nice employers. However, one employer's entry in this thread made it sound like he was talking about objects instead of houseboys/person.
Fair to assume, as both for employers and houseboys, that the bad apples spoil the whole bunch?
Lesson learned here
Hi All. Just a few words to add to this thread in the hope of contributing some common sense and some experiences.1 - there is nothing is the world as dumb as an older gay man when confronted with a handsome 20-something guy who wants to play. I’m not being rude - this is all of us employers. Preferably J/O first then look at the profiles.2 - always spend time checking - use google image search, which often reveals copied porn stars’ photos. There’s a whole series of profiles of ’trained slave bois’ ‘seeking ownership’ or similar wording. Too good to be true - too right! Turn-ons are invariably ‘honesty’ and turn-offs ‘dishonesty’ - it’s so funny you should laugh at it. The Admin here deletes them as fast as he can. Always spend plenty of time swapping emails and on skype - if that’s not possible, there’s a problem!3 - confession time - I have bought air tickets (I’m in Europe) but of course don’t spend more than you are OK to lose, just in case it doesn’t work out. I did even send money to the US though the guy DID come to Europe and was an absolute Angel and we keep in touch (he’s in college).In summary - do be cautious; check as much as you can and ask lots of questions. Only proceed if you have NO doubts. And on a final positive note - I’ve met some wonderful guys on HB!Just spent weeks talking to Stokesys -
Verified him on FB, did a background check, talked to him endlessly - fell for the same scam. His non-refundable air ticket for today went unused. Not a peep out of him since I told him I wouldn't send him any more money until he got here.
I think that the most salient point is - don't send a red cent more than you can afford to lose, and you got value from your "purchase" in the fantasy of some handsome young man making you feel, for a few short days, like you still had some value as a relationship partner.
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I talked to him for part of a day by SMS. He turned into a ghost thereafter.
He can spell and punctuate, which is fantasy material these days.
Other than that, I cannot speak to whether he's real or not.