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While I’ve read through the HB site for several years, this late summer and fall marks my first serious search to find a houseboy to live with me. I've had mixed results but no successful engagement of a houseboy. First off, I pass by profile with a lot of “ask me,” “maybe,” and “it depends” responses. I figure they are either window shopping, or will answer my question the way they perceive I would view favorably. Then I have a pretty good eye for fakes. The Ghana and Nigeria operators often give clues in their language usage. Nonetheless, I did lose several hundred dollars to one guy, in a gamble I knew was risky. But in dealing with young men who I perceive to be legitimate candidates I spend a lot of time going back and forth sharing information. First off, I want to be sure the understand me and my situation and needs. I want to discover what they really can an will do (sex is a very low priority in my search, housework, high.). Moreover I don’t wan to coerce a man to come here until he is certain he wants to come. I consciously avoid being pushy or rushing a commitment. I’ve corresponded with a couple of young men who dealt with me extensively but ended up choosing other employers. In both cases they sensed my slowed-down pace, non-pushy attitude as reluctance on my part. In both cases, I think they accepted placements far less desirable than what I offered (my opinion) I’d welcome feedback on the experience of others who have successfully engaged suitable houseboys, and even from those who have had little or no success.

Very well put. As I am at the beginning stage of my first search, I am very intested in the resonses you get.

Present scam is to say that their ID' and passports are being used as collateral for "loans" they will be happy to report to your home if you pay off their "loans" and or course transportation. I have had to individuals, Jermey Schumacher as Bttmboi, from two places, Montozuma, CO and Callahan, FL. Then the second individual was from Los Angeles, CA goes by the name of Justin Hopkins of justhops. Both used the same MO and justhops is very persistant and keeps pleading for help and least four times to send money to release his passport. And there is a new twist in the old Nigerian scam. A supposed soldier will be getting out of the middle east, but saved a native boy for father was a gold merchant. The father was so pleased with saving his son that he gave the soldier 100kg of gold. The soldier only has a partial payment for shipping the gold via a courier and needs $1545.00 to complete the payment, and I could have the gold shipped to my address......go figure. It took 26+ messages for him to ask for the additional monies. This fellows name was Kyle Carpenter profile is Ksweet, from West Palm Beach, FL . DON'T SEND MONEY Perhaps this new generation should learn how to work the good old fashion way and not be lulled in to always receiving hand outs from the government or scams.