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bacha

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  1. you can find NDAs and contracts for domestic servants online but you can't add anything about sex or kink.  any language of that type is 'metricious consideration"  and invalidates the rest of the contract. 

    generally i think it's good to negotiate what you want and write it down to be clear but it's not something either of you would ever want to risk taking to court.  so it's just for clarity of communication & can be a hot way to negotiate. 

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  2. there are many other sites like recon for kinky hookups, but for all it's technical failings, and all the usual flakes & scammers, this site is probably the best for this category.  there is also a site called housboi.com  but i've only talked to one person who successfully connected with anyone there.  there are some postings on fetlife which is more pansexual and not very gay percentage wise.

    there are lots of sexwork sites. rentboy &  backpage are supposedly up & running again but with the new laws there is more caution and more risk of enforcement.  i would be be extremely leery of anyone offering to sell you a slave. it has occasionally happened in the past but if i saw a post about that, i would be afraid that person was an idiot, a scammer or most likely a narc.  good luck. 

  3. there are arguably more who do part time than full time

    some people call them choreboys

    one of my ex's play is mostly in that vein, that is, if he has a trick come over, he makes them do a chore first.  

    it's a good way to practice without having to jump in with both feet.  good luck.  

  4. so just to recap the obvious:

    this is buzzfeed, so it's extra trashy & sensationalistic, but i thought it was still worth posting for people to be aware of the coverage. 

    it's sad when anyone is taken advantage of or abused, and we all need to look out for ourselves & each other.  Don't get lured into a situation that you can't get out of.  Either as a houseboy or an employer. 

  5. it's unfortunate that the site generates a separate forum profile and apparently allows a forum profile to be generated without having a regular profile.

    and particularly that when you click into someone's name in the forum, the skeletal forum profile appears and there is no indication that they have a regular profile with more info, pics etc.  maybe a link or message back to the regular profiles could be added to the forum profile template

  6. that's totally up to you to negotiate.  it's usually room & board including utilities & meals out, sometimes other expenses, sometimes travel or entertainment.  but i have heard of and also been offered situations where i am expected to pay rent & my own food ranging up to situations where there is a salary for additional work.  it depends on how wealthy they are and is more likely if it is a couple or trio vs a single guy unless he is very financially well off.  

    the stories i hear where things go wrong are usually when the employer is trying to entice a young hot thing with an offer of lots of money, and he ends up being lazy, and the host doesn't have the desire/willingness to discipline him & get him back to work.  and then things go south and he gets kicked out.  

    longer term situations that are successful cover the whole gamut but seem to tend to where the houseboy has some kind of independent income stream, usually part time.  

  7. if the user hasn't replied, there is nowhere to click.  

    i guess i can go to each individual user and click MESSAGE

    but apparently there is no where to see a list of sent messages, correct? only a history thread within each individual user, which doesn't show in my inbox until they have replied

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