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you're very handsome, Sir, good luck

yes, it is likely a good idea not to publically show your face for privacy reasons you can make any photo but your primary profile photo private if you have other questions, you can PM me, i'm not likely to see replies here. good luck

That is a sad & scary scam There is no contract that could be signed that mentions sex that would be recognized in a court of law

Sadly like most dating sites, there lots of Stale profiles here and people who are too flaky to respond. Idealy the administrators would delete people who haven't logged in in more than a year or two but there are unwilling to reduce their numbers that way. I try to look at when someone created their profile and the last time they logged in before I will write them. So with a fair bit of patience and persistence I've had some decent luck. Good luck to you

it's pretty wide open and based on who you're serving and what you negotiate. usually room & board, sometimes more if you're lucky or your master is wealthy. i've been given spending money, car access, gas money, airline tickets, entertainment, etc. some very generous only expecting me to work 20 hours a week and some less so expecting me to work well past 50. PS these forums are close to moribund so you may not get too many responses. i'm happy to chat offline if you have other questions or want help. good luck.

reality check: i am reluctant to respond as there seems to have been no response to my & others' suggestions in the feedback forum

i just had a good experience for two weeks. i won't post their names until i check with them. but this couple was nice, respectful and kept the agreements that we made via chat, phone & skype. they have great bodies and nice big dicks. Their house was large & comfortable. it was a pleasure to work for them, cook, clean, massage & service them. they let me fully enjoy my day off although i made myself sexually available to them coz i wanted to. i would happily have stayed at least another month if i didn't have something come up. they were appreciative of my efforts and said i would be welcome back. it was reassuring to have that as my first experience, not as a houseboy, but with strangers, thru this site.

so mostly you want to write down what you've agreed to to have a record of it and a common reference point but obviously most topics would render any contract unenforceable never mind that you most likely would not want it to end up in court. and if introduced into court, such an agreement might prove very harmful against you.

Prenuptial Agreements -- An Overview from Nolo Presshttp://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/prenuptial-agreements-overview-29569.html a group that promotes poly marriage: https://www.facebook.com/polyamoryadvocates

One very important point: you cannot include sexual services in any contract as it will make the agreement unenforceable in any US state. 'Meretricious consideration' is verboten. In California in particular, a contract between unmarried persons is invalid "if sexual acts form an inseparable part of the consideration for the agreement." Marvin v. Marvin, 18 Cal. 3d 660,672 (1976).

if you join Fetlife (kinky social networking site which is free) there is a legal forum with a post called "legal submission documentation" written by a lawyer. if she gives me permission i will post it here.

a student visa might be a workable option or if the houseboy has skills & time to work outside in a job that would qualify him for a visa. since the eu visa laws changed some years ago, it's much more difficult to get work visas as you probably know. other resources you may find useful: http://aupair-visa-france.greataupair.com/ http://www.ilga-europe.org/home/guide_europe/country_by_country/france/legal http://www.freedomtomarry.org/landscape/entry/c/international http://www.expatexchange.com/visa-france.html marriage to you or someone else would resolve the issue over the longer term. the time line and other restrictions vary based on how far along the particular ER country is in regularizing their schengen laws. prior to gay marriage being an option, some men adopted their lovers to grant them financial or legal rights, i have no idea if that is relevant in the EU currently. depending where the boy is coming from, he might be able to get asylum or refugee status which can be lengthy capricious & expensive process. if you have other questions you're having trouble researching, you can contact me directly, i may be able to help you find info including in french. good luck.

like most websites, the owners of this site want to keep their membership stats artificially inflated so they don't remove any profiles even after years of not being used. at least they post the stats but it's a pain to remember to look at the last login before writing someone.

also would be better if clicking on username in a forum posting went to their full profile not the skeleton of it

guidelines for preparing domestic servant contract in US http://photos.stat.gov/libraries/164149/pdfs/domestic.pdf sample contract http://www.homeworksolutions.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Montgomery_County_MD_Model_Contract.pdf

it would be nice to have a one click favoriting or saving button from the search thumbnails page thx

when i'm drafting, the section is called WHAT YOU EXPECT FROM AN EMPLOYER/HOUSEBOY but on viewing the profile it reverse to WHAT TO EXPECT ABOUT ME, instead of WHAT IM HOPING FROM YOU etc

other profiles have line returns but mine is just a block of undifferentiated text whether I edit it in IE or firefox

it would be convenient as with other sites if you used cookies or another means of recording our assent so we don't have to click on I AM 18 every time thx

also is we could click into our message history from someone's profile

another suggestion: you could add an email notification to premium members with weekly/monthly summaries of new profiles, like on other sites

in sections like TURNONS it would be easier to read entries if double spacing was allowed. currently it appears that any formatting is collapsed. it doesn't take that much memory to maintain simple formatting. thx

it would be great to generically be able to click thru usernames where they appear (eg in emails) and be able to be redirected to the user profile as is common in most well designed websites now thx

as others have commented elsewhere, the language on various pages (FAQs, highly rated members) is pretty boring & sleazy. i realize the porn links pay the bills but maybe you should survey members to see if they like chatty smutty long answers when they're looking for info.

it would be good to summarize some of these tips and have them permanently posted on the site. I'd be willing to pull a draft together.