bacha

Hello, i am an experienced houseman with a decade plus of experience with references. Late 50s GWM. I'll be driving up the west coast starting in San Diego, next week, Palm Springs, LA, Santa Cruz, SF, Oakland, Sonoma, Mendocino in March. And will be in Eugene, Portland & Seattle in April and points in between. i'm a good & versatile cook. I'm used to pet sitting, eldercare, pool care, errands, shopping, deep cleaning, clutter cleansing, party/orgy planning, lawn care, basic computer & phone tech, mail management & dealing with repair people. NB i'm not a handyman or a mechanic. i'm open to just giving you a massage during my travels or having you test drive my holes or giving you a service staycation for a few days or a week. Or auditioning open ended for longer term service. i'm fluent in Spanish & French and happy to learn your native language for long term service i'm very comfortable with open or poly relationships. i'm mostly a bottom but a good service top and skilled in tantra so I generally can keep my masters well entertained in the dungeon or bedroom. please check out my profile and message me directly with any questions i'm happy to provide references after we chat. Please be patient with my responses while i'm on the road. thank you, sir bacha

this site spends the absolute minimum on the hb portion, they re making money only on the porn part of the site. spam wars on dating sites have been making some sites unusable for years and it is much worse now with AI. sometimes just bots, sometimes with a human bot manager. most of you posting here fail to understand, we are no longer in the 20th century. literally every single master i have served got ripped off by some young hot thing, many of them savvy enough i was shocked they fell for it. so yes, you have to have clear boundaries, not send money, quickly do video calls no excuses, do background checks before committing etc. this is a micro niche and the only other sites are just as shitty in other ways--houseboi, seekingarrangement etc. networking thru trusted friends is better if you can find guys with similar leaninfs. good luck

categorically a scam

unfortunately the website is only partially maintained on autopilot but is really just a front for the porn site which is the moneymaker it's definitely been getting worse in the last 5 years. it's been years? since michael the sysop posted

all sites are subject to the spam bot wars. bigger sites like grindr have more staff & time to keep it looking cleaner. this site has always been a backwater and they don't have the resources to spend on the nonporn part of the site. the 'dating/houseboy' part of the site isn't really bringing them any revenue. to cut the admin some slack, it's hard and the spam bots are constantly getting better. search "why dating apps full of spambots"? and you will see many links answering different aspects of your question. many people are chatting with bots & don't realize it. most of the response above i would agree with but it's only relevant for the small number of human scammers. the majority are AIs set up automatically by trolls there's no point in posting about scam profiles. either you know how to weed spam bots & human scammers out or you don't. it would be impossible to list all the fake, abandoned or spambot profiles here. there are real people here worth finding but it's harder than years ago and fewer real & decent people are active on the site.

hey there, usually what i do is blank out my profile, delete pics and remove and identifying info and leave it up for a couple weeks so even their backups have only the blank version and then i delete both profiles. they used to be more linked but they're increasingly divorced. i think that's worth doing even on sites that have more funding & a better interface than this. i haven't seen any posts from the admin in a long time. best to play it conservative.

he'll eventually reply but if you look thru the history of the other forums, they're clearly focused on the main porn site and this is just a backwater that doesn't bring in much money and they don't pay much attention. don't hold your breath and not really worth giving them money since much of the site is moribund. it's much less active than it was before lockdown as well. .

Howdy i’m looking for a new live-in situation starting in the fall preferably as a submissive kinky houseman. My current master is downsizing and selling the house after 4 years. Here are some highlights from letters of reference: “cleaned my entire three-bedroom condo in a week… I enjoyed his massage and would welcome him back. " “He brought us lots of laughter. He's the consummate dinner guest… able to find common ground with almost anybody.” “He is an expert at fellatio and could give classes. He was able to make me come with his mouth without having to touch myself which is very rare for me.“ “We both regularly pay for sessions with multiple masseurs monthly and were very pleased with his skills.” “He's an excellent masseur and a responsive vocal bottom in the dungeon. He also served in the kitchen during one of our play parties and was extremely helpful and gracious with the guests. He has a good sense of humor and is quite socially adept. I recommend him without hesitation. Use him well.” Please PM me if you might be interested in a phone or video chat prior to an in person audition so you can test drive my mouth, massage & cooking skills. I’m happy to answer any other questions you might have, Sir. i’m in my 50s so i’m not the typical boy toy but if you need someone who is more mature, you will likely be at least as pleased as my recent masters. i can share a functional resume and will provide credit & background check, STD info. I have my own vehicle and will be debt free by the fall. Thank you Sir, blaise

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media goes for extremes as in "if it bleeds it leads" and some people have argued for centuries that it is typical of empires in decline to get more decadent as people are wealthy, bored & disassociated from reality, cf caligula and no,it's not just you noticing, here are some metrics https://news.yahoo.com/why-millennials-love-faux-incest-221000452.html?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAANV8CfEMvKlMaM2Lp5vzkKwJgk3OJ9dTdow9ekdJ2qIdjpBebvcyiUzHuj5A-XSf0lhaI1id80O0rrb5KExJ5T757TPq1hPJKnXdetKB4bER4dlv350CEXgJPzAMODfJeHBmqX7T4SEekxQ3y-e9RdEkJRcS5K3eWtVWSq0c83RO

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I was talking to a buddy about a roadtrip this summer so I was doing a little research. I'm not getting on a plan anytime soon. Thought some of you might find these useful as well. Here a list of US travel restrictions. Some states are increasing restrictions particularly for states still experiencing exponential COVID growth. https://ballotpedia.org/Travel_restrictions_issued_by_states_in_response_to_the_coronavirus_%28COVID-19%29_pandemic,_2020 International borders https://www.kayak.com/travel-restrictions Hard to blame EU and east asia for not allowing US entry. Considerations for travel https://www.vox.com/the-goods/2020/7/1/21309810/travel-covid-19-summer-road-trip Stay safe, bacha

I have been serving 24/7 for six of the last 10 years in a number of households starting my late 40s. while a lot of doms want a young pretty pliable sub with a nice body. many of them open up their demographic focus after some pursuit & experience. about a third of my masters have been younger than me. what doms report to me that they don't like about some younger guys: they're flaky and often disappear for no reason while they're getting to know each other they don't know what they want they are inexperienced in sex & kink & D/s they have poor judgment & impulse control they spent most or all of their time on their phone or gaming, hide in their room they need nagging to do any chores they do drugs & steal their profile is blank/hard to evaluate and/or they didn't read our profile they have more STIs than guys over 30 obviously none of those things are true of all young men or can't be true of older guys what masters have told me they enjoyed about me or other older experienced subs: we're trained we are motivated & know that we want to serve we're very skilled at bottoming, cock sucking, massage etc we know how to take care of a household/dungeon/car etc we often have useful life skills or input when there's a problem we do obvious chores without having to be told or threatened we're more interesting to be around, make conversation, introduce to friends we can be trusted to follow thru on a project and have good independent judgment we're more hairy, chunky, mature, masculine, better tops we don't need constant supervision or entertainment most of the doms i've met who were serious about finding a houseboy have been ripped off by a young pretty drug addict who seduced them to the point where they got off balance & did things against their own better judgment some doms who can handle more than one sub, keep a young guy as a boytoy & an older guy as a manwife or majordomo what's your experience of looking for guys of different ages & being served by them?

best performance prize to the dishwasher https://www.facebook.com/MagicMenAustralia/videos/1026287934428526/?t=0

i am reposting my reponse to a question in Fetlife about what were my favorite tasks as a houseboy i am very service oriented and driven now so anything that he enjoys or gets him hard, is very satisfying but my favorite tasks over the years have been: coming into their bedroom to snuggle between them & maybe blow one when the other went into the shower, taking piss from the tap in the middle of the night, master standing up & unzipping his pants wordlessiy knowing that i would scoot over from scrubbing the floor on hands & knees to take his piss while he continued with his conference call, making him lunch and then blowing him under the table while he enjoys his sandwich, having him rest his feet on my belly while he watches TV giving him a foot rub, staying up all night fucking him the first time he wanted me to top him, bottoming for a young dom in training he was mentoring, regularly massaging both of them and bringing them to orgasm in their preferred manner, cooking naked for a dinner party no eye contact , urinal service in public, servicing his master buddy while he was on the other side of the dungeon with the sub WOOF what are you favorite 'chores'?